2 simple ways to love without losing yourself

When I say loving without losing yourself, I mean loving and giving more attention to yourself, most people in relationships care less about themselves focusing all their attentions on their partners , I'm not saying that is not right but to an extent you need to focus more on yourself, love in every relationship should be 60/40,60% for yourself and 40% to your partner. 

Well, we have noticed so far that most people in love don't wish to lose themselves but end up losing themselves just because the believe they want to give their best. 

So below are the things you need to do while loving without losing yourself.  

1. Identify this wall and where it came from.

If you watched one of your parents lose themselves or felt like one parent sacrificed a lot for the other, you too, at a young age, maybe said, “I’m not going to depend on a man.”

Or maybe you simply don’t like your parents relationship because it felt like one or both were trapped in some way.

You may even admire your parent’s relationship, but still noticed one parent was more dominant over the other. Did you always hear “You’ll have to make sure that’s okay with mom first” or “We can’t buy that because dad will get mad” in your home?

Do a little digging and identify the wall for yourself, no matter what your scenario. This wall can be what’s keeping you single (just as much as this wall had me on the brink of divorce).

2. Commit to trying to let a man take care of you, even in a small ways.

When you let men take care of you — from opening the salsa jar, to opening doors for you, to letting him pay for dinner — your experiences with men will change.

Yes, you know you can do these things yourself — you’re a strong, independent woman after all. But asking for support even in small ways helps tame the knee jerk reaction to shut a man out, and instead opens you up to letting him in.

When you let the right kinds of men support you, it gives that man PURPOSE in your life. A place where he fits, can contribute, and love you up the way you want to be loved.

That’s what helps men notice you, has them ask you out, and keeps them coming back for more.