I was having a conversation with a distant friend and I asked about her relationship status, since her last breakup months ago. She told me she was still single and I inquired the reason behind her decision to remain single for so long. In a flash, she replied, “I am not interested in a relationship yet, been there, done that.”

I suddenly had a premature heart contraction, i.e. my heart suddenly skipped a beat. These words hit me, not because they sounded ecstatic or nonchalant, but the magnitude of its profoundness struck a core.

Relationships are one of those life goals everyone wants to engage in at a point in their lives. To have someone embrace you in your dimmest without judging your unpleasant inadequacies. Especially a fond connection where one is free to be himself/herself, to laugh with, to cry with, to love with and never grow into a green heart. But like every force, perfection is fairly impossible and these disadvantages, sadly, most often than not, ruins all the good memories.

“Years of love have been forgotten, in the hatred of a minutes.” – Edgar Allan Poe.
Being in love, genuinely, isn’t an issue, staying in love is where the issue lies, and that all comes down to your mental maturity. If you can’t sincerely handle yourself and get your affairs in check, you can’t handle someone else; thus, you will keep finding yourself being unable to fulfil some basic responsibilities.

Being conflicted with one’s self is the inability to know what you want and what you need. These are inner conversations one must have with his/her mind. You need your personal time to mentally and emotionally break and heal.. if you want to grow. Loneliness might seem tormenting to the mind, but it is also an avenue to understand who you are and who you want to be. Your mind is a complement of your heart. When your mind is not settled, your heart is disorientated.

Some common signs of immaturity in a relationship are:

• Selfishness
Mentally immature people put their needs first, without flinching for a second to consider the other person’s point of view. They lack the attentiveness and concern of others as opposed their narcissistic opinion.

• Defensiveness
This might seem rather general in relationships, but unlike a mature partner who listens before responding to a fault or opinion, an immature partner always blows an issues out of proportion, whether wrong or right. They get awfully defensive and sometimes get upset over the smallest issue, which gets worse when their partner is at fault.

• Pushing Buttons
An immature partner consciously makes you furious for something you obviously don’t condone. There is an obvious line between a joke and a serious conversation. They don’t understand this line. They intentionally annoy their partner and push this partner’s perception of an issue, causing him/her to react to their follies.

• Little or No Physical Chemistry
The physical chemistry is all they are interested in and the moment their advances are turned down, probably for a sensible reason, an unnecessary issue arises. It is sometimes a case of not being interested in the physical part of a relationship. They turn off that part of them and decline any attempt of a physical chemistry with their partner, giving ugly excuses to why they can’t have anything physical with them.

• Communication Issues
They have issues talking about their feeling despite the genuineness of their feeling which gets deeply frustrating to their partner. “Nothing is wrong”, “I don’t want to talk about it” are phrases they regularly use. They also entirely shut down when their partner needs an advice on a particular issue, because they are only bothered with things associated to them, thereby ignoring whatever issue their partner wants to discuss with them.

• Jealousy Tantrums
They always go out of their way to purposely make you consciously jealous, or throw tantrums when an opposite sex is involved with you, whether platonic or non-platonic. They flirt with the opposite sex to see the reaction of their partner, and if this partner doesn’t notice their dramatic stunt, they sometimes lose it and throw unnecessary outbursts.

• Disrespect
Mentally immature people have no iota of respect for their partners.

• No Goals for The Future
They have no idea of where the relationship is headed and aren’t bothered by the thought. They don’t look forward to the future, but rather live in the moment.

• Regretful
This is usually called “Foot in Mouth” syndrome. They will almost certainly utter a statement or use words they immediately regret, after the damage has being done, of course. They put their partner down with their words in one moment and the next moment they are apologising.

If you want to love, be loved and be lovable, in body, soul and mind, you have to give your partner, if not your full attention, but most of it. It isn’t just a decision which could be temporary, it is a commitment. Be entirely honest with yourself, judge your mind and gauge your heart intimately.

Do you want this?
Do you need this?
Are you ready?

Breaking hearts or getting your heart broken on the basis of love isn’t healthy for anyone. Don’t be caught up in the dogma of “Getting hurt, over and over again to learn the tales of love because experience is the best teacher.”

No road is long without good company. You are your own company. You are your own teacher. You are your own experience. Understanding the cores of your mind and the expectancies of your heart is up to you, and not the responsibility of another. You need to learn how to fight your own battles, conquer your own obstacles and take on your own challenges.

It is selfish to get into a relationship because you feel incomplete with yourself or paralyzed by your own difficulties.
You don’t have to constantly look for love at every moment of your life, jumping from one relationship to one heartbreak. Don’t hurt a good person because you can’t get your affairs in check or get your heart broken because you can’t figure out what you exactly desire from a relationship.

Be the best you can be for the person who deserves the best of who you become.

*seansian theory*

There is a work side to prosperity. It is the works of your hand God blesses.A

People are in farms planting yams and you are busy sitting in church, when it is harvesting time; don't expect yams to fall from heaven. When it is eating time; people are eating and you are "believing" God for yams.

Faith without work is dead. There should be a corresponding action in line of faith.

When the gospel came to Africa, the missionaries saw two vital areas of deficiencies; hospital and school. They filled these gaps. Today, directly or indirectly, we have all benefited from it.

Today, we have a major problem; unemployment. Instead of filling this gap we are taking advantage of it.

We gather the unemployed and "prophesy" jobs to them. We give them stickers, sell "holy water", tell them to sow and expect harvest, convincing them to "work" for the lord, that breakthrough is coming... All these we do to exploit and explore the vulnerable.

We travel abroad. We have gone to Isreal and see the agricultural exploits there. But we are not willing to bring them home.

When we sow, instead of our money to be invested into ventures like agriculture that would alleviate the sufferings of the weak ones among us, we channel the money to an atheist in Germany who designed MOG's customised car.

We channel the money to Buddhists in China where we bought our building materials. We channel the money to a gay in America who produced the sound system and lighting system.

We channel the money to a Muslim in Dubai who did the interior decoration of our " magnificent " building...what a Capital Flight!

Why are we crying of poverty and for breakthrough? The God that I know respond to work wherever he sees man doing something to advance humanity, be it a Hindu, Gay, Buddhist, atheist etc.

I don't want to start mentioning names, neither do I want to indict any person. But just imagine Living Faith going to rice production, RCCG going into Cassava production, Christ Embassy into Maize, God's Choosen into Yams, Catholics into millets etc.

The land is there, the man power is there, the money is there, like the missionaries, who saw a problem and filled it, we can also fill this problem of unemployment and food security.

Just imagine a church sending hundreds of trailer load of food to evangelise the north. No man can resist love. Feed them in love and watch how their hearts change. That was how the missionaries changed the hearts of our forebears.

The missionaries have tried for us, and instead of us to keep pressing northwards, we have resulted in building empires. We have commercialized the gospel. It is all about breakthrough, money and less of Jesus, His Person, His Sacrifice and Finished works.

We have the manpowers to feed Nigeria and Africa, generate employment by adding values to farm produce and exporting them.

We have traveled abroad and have seen great agricultural exploits, it is time to bring these inventions home.

It is time we convert our exotic cars in our garages to tractors and other mechanised and modern agricultural tools. Doing what government cannot do, by do doing this; "THE GOVERNMENT SHALL BE UPON HIS SHOULDER ".

When we roar, the government is supposed to quiver, not because of our large bank accounts, but because of our intimidating exploits.

It is time to wake-up... I see a day when we shall be holding our numerous church services in farms and factories. It is time to take the government upon His shoulder. It is action time!

The Voice of One has spoken!Selah!!!

.......  Loads of youths in churches  NO JOBS! The church should think of ways to create jobs for them


*SAGs*🤳🏼

Pictures of decaying bodies has been going viral on social media for the past few days,these decaying bodies are said to be the bodies of Biafrans found in a bush 150 kilometres away from Nnamdi Kanu's house near Aba Road where Army check Point is located, it was allegedly said that the military tied their hands backwards and face their faces downwards before poring a deadly acid on them.
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Ronaldo takes home the award for the second year in a row, as he managed to defeat competition from fellow finalists Neymar and Lionel Messi at the awards ceremony in London.
The 32-year-old turned in another stunning campaign for Madrid in 2016-17 as he led the Blancos to a La Liga and Champions League double, including a brace in the Champions League final against Juventus.
Ronaldo netted 25 times in La Liga last term and added 12 goals in the Champions League to round off another sensational goalscoring season.
Arsenal striker Olivier Giroud has won FIFA's Puskas Award for the best goal of 2016-17.
Giroud took home the prize for his stunning scorpion kick at the end of a superb team move against Crystal Palace at the Emirates Stadium on January 1.

TSTV is a Nigerian Owned Satellite Television. It's new and the first of its kind in Nigeria. So many Nigerians can't wait to start using this Nigerian made product.

So TSTV will be launching on October 1 with 100 channels including 12 sports channels for all the football leagues we want to follow.

But this is not the catch,

The decoder also has a hotspot of 20Gb and video call conferencing with a camera.

The TSTV decoder will have 50 gb hard disk to record TV programs and a pause/play function.

It is the first Nigerian TV to launch a Pay as you use so you can pause your subscription whenever you are traveling.

Now let me blow your mind,

It is just N5000 for the decoder and dish and subscription prices are N200, N500, N1000, N1500 and N3000 respectively.